From Stress to Success: Mastering Emotional Intelligence
By Karry Kleeman
3x SaaS Exited CRO | Board Member | Investor | Advisor | GTM Executive
In today’s fast-paced, high-pressure business world, the ability to manage stress, navigate interpersonal challenges, and lead with emotional intelligence (EQ) is more critical than ever. Emotional intelligence isn’t just a soft skill—it’s a competitive advantage that separates great leaders from average ones. Mastering EQ allows you to make better decisions, build stronger teams, and create a thriving work environment where success is the natural outcome.
What is Emotional Intelligence?
At its core, emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize, understand, and manage both your own emotions and those of others. It’s about self-awareness, empathy, and the ability to handle high-stress situations with composure. The best leaders don’t just react—they respond with intention, leveraging emotional intelligence to guide their teams through uncertainty and challenges.
Daniel Goleman, the psychologist who popularized EQ, breaks it down into five key components:
- Self-Awareness – Recognizing and understanding your own emotions.
- Self-Regulation – Controlling impulsive behaviors and managing emotions effectively.
- Motivation – Having a passion for what you do beyond external rewards.
- Empathy – Understanding and considering others’ emotions in decision-making.
- Social Skills – Managing relationships, resolving conflicts, and inspiring teams.
Mastering these elements isn’t just about being ‘nice’—it’s about becoming a more effective, resilient, and influential leader.
The Link Between EQ and Success
Some of the most successful leaders and entrepreneurs credit their achievements not just to technical skills but to their ability to manage emotions and connect with people. A high IQ may get you in the door, but a high EQ will determine how far you go. Studies show that leaders with high emotional intelligence tend to:
- Make better strategic decisions under pressure.
- Build more engaged, motivated, and high-performing teams.
- Foster workplace cultures that drive innovation and collaboration.
- Navigate difficult conversations and conflicts with diplomacy.
In my own career, I’ve seen firsthand how emotional intelligence fuels success. At LogicGate, where we scaled from $1M to $50M in ARR, a key factor wasn’t just having a solid go-to-market strategy but ensuring our leadership team had the EQ to align, motivate, and support employees through rapid growth. Similarly, at SpringCM, leading up to its $270M acquisition by DocuSign, the ability to communicate vision, navigate high-stakes conversations, and maintain emotional resilience was crucial in securing a successful outcome.
How to Develop and Strengthen Your EQ
If emotional intelligence is such a game-changer, how do you strengthen it? Here are some key strategies:
1. Increase Self-Awareness
Pay attention to your emotions in different situations. Take a step back and ask yourself, “Why am I feeling this way?” Journaling, mindfulness, and seeking honest feedback from colleagues can help you become more aware of emotional triggers and patterns.
2. Master Self-Regulation
Stress and frustration are inevitable, but how you respond determines your leadership effectiveness. Instead of reacting impulsively, take a moment to pause and breathe. Practicing techniques like meditation, exercise, and reframing negative thoughts can help regulate emotional responses.
3. Cultivate Empathy
Empathy isn’t just about being sympathetic—it’s about understanding perspectives different from your own. Active listening, putting yourself in others’ shoes, and being mindful of non-verbal cues can enhance your ability to connect with people at a deeper level.
4. Sharpen Your Social Skills
Great leaders know how to communicate with clarity, navigate conflicts, and inspire teams. Developing strong social skills means being approachable, open to feedback, and skilled at building trust. Whether it’s handling tough conversations or rallying a team behind a vision, strong interpersonal skills drive success.
5. Stay Motivated and Resilient
The ability to stay driven despite setbacks is a hallmark of emotional intelligence. Focus on long-term goals rather than short-term obstacles, celebrate small wins, and remind yourself of the bigger picture to maintain motivation and momentum.
Emotional Intelligence in Action
Consider a high-pressure negotiation or a critical decision-making moment in business. Leaders with low EQ may react impulsively, let emotions cloud judgment, or create unnecessary friction. Leaders with high EQ, on the other hand, remain composed, assess the situation objectively, and communicate with clarity, ensuring the best possible outcome.
At its core, emotional intelligence isn’t about suppressing emotions—it’s about using them strategically. It’s about leading with awareness, responding with intention, and fostering an environment where people can do their best work.
The Competitive Edge of EQ
In today’s dynamic business landscape, success isn’t just about technical expertise or market knowledge—it’s about how well you manage yourself and your relationships. Emotional intelligence is the secret weapon that allows leaders to transform stress into success, drive performance, and create lasting impact.
So, as you navigate your own leadership journey, ask yourself: How well are you mastering emotional intelligence? Because in the end, it’s not just about what you know—it’s about how well you connect, inspire, and lead.
About Karry Kleeman
Karry Kleeman is a seasoned software executive, go-to-market strategist, and revenue leader. He thrives at the intersection of business growth and human connection, blending a sharp instinct for scaling companies with a deep passion for people and a commitment to infusing a human touch into the process. He is known for bringing energy and clarity to organizations—rallying teams around a common mission, driving execution, and creating momentum that fuels growth.
With a career spanning decades in enterprise software, Karry has built and led high-performing revenue organizations from early-stage startups to IPOs and strategic acquisitions. He has played a pivotal role in scaling multiple companies to successful exits, generating well over $1 billion in enterprise value. At LogicGate, he architected a go-to-market strategy that propelled the company from $1M to $50M in ARR. At SpringCM, he led the revenue function through its $270M acquisition by DocuSign. And at Mobius he helped scale the business from $3M to over $100M, culminating in a successful IPO.
Karry’s ability to inspire and energize teams is a core part of his leadership. Just as he commands attention and engagement when performing live music, he brings the same presence and intensity to leading teams—aligning them around a shared vision, setting the pace, and ensuring everyone is moving in rhythm toward ambitious goals. When he’s not driving business growth, you’ll find him performing classic rock hits anywhere he can find a live mic.